Vivienne Dockerty

Author of Historical Fiction

Elderly People Need Extra Help

Even if they're stubbon ...


Just recently, my husband's aunt died. One minute she was lying in a hospital bed after being struck down with a bout of food poisoning, and the next minute she'd passed on ...

Elderly people really do need some extra help, even if they are stubborn and don't ask for it!

Elderly people really do need some extra help, even if they are stubborn and don't ask for it!

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Her sad passing suddenly made us feel very vulnerable, as she was the last of the generation before us to die and we're no spring chickens ourselves.

"Used to the deprivations of war, aunty
was a frugal lady; she never spent a sixpence
when a penny would do."

She was also very stubborn when it came to any help that was being offered. At 95, she was still fit and healthy, albeit a little deaf; she was still able to walk up and down her steep set of stairs to the bathroom.

But she liked to make things last and instead of throwing away the cooked chicken that had been bought the week before, she kept taking nibbles of it. But that seemed to be the mantra of the generation before, "waste not, want not", and that was her downfall.

I believe she would still be here if she had made use of the many services on offer now. She could have taken advantage of the Wiltshire Food delivery service or a weekly delivery from a supermarket instead of relying on her son.

Or, instead of waiting for her busy niece to call and help with housework, washing and ironing, she could have employed the services of a company such as Extra Help. That's exactly the sort of thing they do.

And that is where her's and my generation differ. They were too proud, too stubborn, didn't want to be a burden and sit in the house for days on end waiting for a visitor.

My mother, God Bless her, was from the same mould. Her ambition was to have her name printed in the local newspaper as having bequeathed a healthy sum to her loved ones, which I don't think they do now, thank goodness.

"Not so my generation. We're the Baby Boomers
and leaving money to our relatives is not a priority!"

As someone once said, "if there is still money left in the bank when I die, it will have been a mistake on my part!" A good philosophy. If you spent a lifetime working hard (and in my case, I'm still working hard!) then spend it.

Spend it on a really great food delivery service, a lovely lady who will take you shopping or someone who will do the cleaning for you, while you put your feet up. Go pamper yourself every week at your local beauty salon or even play an extra round of golf.

You know you deserve it, you have earned it and - most importantly - there are no pockets in shrouds. Always remember, you can't take it with you!

God Bless you, Aunty B.

Until next time ...


More about Vivienne Dockerty ...

Since arriving back in the U.K I have enjoyed meeting lots of people at the Author Talks and book signing events that I have been invited to. It has been great connecting with my roots again and listening to other people's stories whilst I have been doing research for my next book.

A big thank you to all the readers who have posted Amazon reviews after they have finished one of my books.


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